I had a lovely long chat with my parents again last night. Well lovely until nearing the end anyway, but more on that later. I'd planned on giving them a call to say hi and had figured we'd be on the phone for an hour or so - but turned into nearly two in the end, meaning I'm a little tired this morning...
I started with my mum, we talked about how I've been this week (weepy for some reason). She put it on the stress of Fridays outing. I'm not so sure. We talked about the therapy session and what not and I started to notice that we deffinately have a changing relationship. More open for one thing, I can't imagine talking to her so openly 12 months ago. We also have a lot more of a girly chat when on the phone. Making each other laugh, we do talk about make-up and clothes. She calls me nasty names for being able to wear heels, where as she can't anymore. And she said something that I was not expecting, but was such a wonderful thing to hear.
She commented again that I was much more relaxed during the last vacation (I was not pretending to be anything exceot me - I didn't get dressed, but neither did watch the mannarisms etc over the week to make sure I was acting as expected - which is what I normally do), and that the difference in me as a person was instantly visible. Over the new year when I told her she said whilst she would support me always, she thought my TG'ness (for want of a better phrase) was more dressing, and that she didn't really see the Stacy in me. She's now changed that around and said that when relaxed it's obvious, and that when she looks at me now she can see the feminine in me, including facial features. She also thinks I'll make a prettier woman than a handsome man (not sure about the last one, but it was nice to hear anyway - not that I think I'm handsome either...).
Anyway, we were chatting for 45 mins or so and then my dad came on the line. We didn't speak about 'it' at all, but spent 40 minutes discussing the fact that my airco has died in the car, the cost of oil services on modern cars, fuel economy, power and torque and the interviews I spent nearly all day doing for developers, and what you would trust an apprentice just out of college with in a garage (neat way to get across my point with a couple of the applicants). In the background I could my mum telling him to stop talking cars, no chance :)
Then when he was about to go my mum said she wanted another word. First she said that she wanted to make sure that there was nothing I could not discuss with her, she has experience of the possible future from her time at Leicester General, and that there was nothing that I could say that would shock her. I pointed out that I think I past that point on New Years Eve, she laughed.
Then she got all serious, and nearly had us both in tears. My parents adore my wife, apparently something that terrifies them at the moment is that if we divorce (they think we will) that they will lose contact with someone they love. I don't suppose there is much I can do or say there, apart from hope that it doesn't come to that of course...
I'm sure we finished on a high note, but for the life of me can't remember what... The bit about them losing their daughter in law stuck in my mind somewhat.
Oh, and finally... I have a nice appointment next week with a friend that knows. We are going to be discussing implementing TFS 2010 at his current employers, and his wife who is a hairdresser is going to be me some advice about cuts that I can style easily in two ways :)