tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post6817058518118484908..comments2023-06-18T11:06:27.891+02:00Comments on Musings of an I.T. Girl: Making my aunt cry...Stacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-85714040192151976972011-10-17T19:34:15.633+02:002011-10-17T19:34:15.633+02:00The support I have had is amazing - so far there h...The support I have had is amazing - so far there has only been one less than positive response. Oddly enough from someone who I hadn't expected it - not negative, but she has gone very quiet and whilst she said she needed time and would get back to me... Well that was before my trip to the UK back in August. It does weigh on me as she was someone who Mrs Stace and I got on with very well, and because my mum is not very forgiving of people who do that (in fact she is very vocal on the phone about that) and I don't want them to fall out with a relative just because of me! but there is not much I can do.<br /><br />Seeing a therapist was the best thing that I ever did (or so I say at the moment). I would not be on this path except for that. But then, as your path is different maybe that is not such a good thing... I just wish that I could provide more support than typing into a comment box from ±4000 miles away...<br /><br />StaceStacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-34041926060401066072011-10-16T18:14:33.218+02:002011-10-16T18:14:33.218+02:00It amazes me just how much positive support you ha...It amazes me just how much positive support you have had from nearly everyone you touch, Stace. You are so fortunate.<br /><br />I've never seen a therapist and perhaps my past is the reason. I have alluded to it at times in my blog. Very ugly, made fun of, terrorized by others in school, dressing daily when pre-teen and worried about being caught....and my father's absolute insistence that if I grew my hair long I must be a "homo" (his words). I have buried this and now it only surfaces when I read comments such as this post. I think a therapist would just cause me to bawl my eyes out...<br /><br />Calie xxxCaliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00280127011882954777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-14021813899809566522011-10-03T18:31:43.795+02:002011-10-03T18:31:43.795+02:00Well.... To start with you need :P
I guess you co...<i>Well.... To start with you need</i> :P<br /><br />I guess you could paraphrase it as 'Wow, you are not dressed as an over the top drag queen!' It's what most people who have seen me have tried not to say in so many words... <br /><br />Thanks both,<br />Stace<br /><br />(On a serious note, how she wants to and feels comfortable doing - you don't seem to do too badly ;p)Stacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-14311132715484957452011-10-02T23:58:22.123+02:002011-10-02T23:58:22.123+02:00'Wow, you dress just like a 30 something woman...<i> 'Wow, you dress just like a 30 something woman' comments :)</i><br /><br />Psst. How does a 30 something woman dress?<br /><br />Confused of Nottingham<br />x<br /><br />PS: on a less flippant note, lovely to hear that it all went well!Lynn Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00876715474502367377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-65196205108516849502011-10-01T21:52:49.867+02:002011-10-01T21:52:49.867+02:00How wonderful. Better than you could hope I guess...How wonderful. Better than you could hope I guess<br /><br />Pleased for you<br /><br />BeccaBeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14342124169953960479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-89880245134000248162011-09-26T21:21:55.192+02:002011-09-26T21:21:55.192+02:00One of the comments from my therapist was that I h...One of the comments from my therapist was that I have too much of a veil over the past. It's gone, there is nothing I can do and let's face it even if I could what I am going to change? My life is what it is due to choice I have made - I am me due to those choices too. Sure it would have been easier for me if I had done this 15 or 20 years ago, but I didn't. Ergo I have stopped getting upset by it, I've moved on from there and am concentrating far more on where I am, and where I am going. That in the other hand does still scare me :) As I said in my last post, I think that's a good thing as it means I am thinking about it!<br /><br />That they can see the positive image is exactly the reason why I want people who kow to meet me as Stacy. I have had nothing but positive comments so far from the people who have done - including the 'Much better than I was expecting' or 'Wow, you dress just like a 30 something woman' comments :)<br /><br />StaceStacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-65336822379014660442011-09-25T11:32:00.328+02:002011-09-25T11:32:00.328+02:00I have now drawn a veil over the past, it is the p...I have now drawn a veil over the past, it is the present and future which is important but those moments like yours trying to explain the impossibility of our past situates which bring on mutual floods of tears...<br /><br />She can ow relate to a positive image of you rather than an abstract based on media horror stories when she thinks about you and your new life to come.Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133031265351841626noreply@blogger.com