tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post3830571800520211779..comments2023-06-18T11:06:27.891+02:00Comments on Musings of an I.T. Girl: ThreadbareStacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-37283881000803447662010-06-06T09:25:38.632+02:002010-06-06T09:25:38.632+02:00Thanks all. The thing with my friend chocking was...Thanks all. The thing with my friend chocking was that he got over it much quicker than I did. I'm sure that's not right...<br /><br />As for the other comments... Thanks for making me think, I've been trying to get a succinct reply and it's just not coming. So I'm going to try and work through my thoughts in a post later this morning instead...<br /><br />Thanks for caring enough to question me :)<br />StaceStacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-29287541038155655502010-06-05T22:15:20.172+02:002010-06-05T22:15:20.172+02:00Well done on helping your friend who was chocking....Well done on helping your friend who was chocking. It could have got much worse if you hadent done what you did.<br />With regard to the dsiagnosis, I think the main diagnosis you need to consider is your own. I know how we sometimes feel the need for others to affirm what we think, but the only person who really needs to be sure of who you are is you.<br />If you are ready you are ready.<br />If not then take your time.<br />Big hug.<br />xx<br />PS you do really seem to have a great company that you work for.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-54439847564730125022010-06-05T20:18:46.717+02:002010-06-05T20:18:46.717+02:00Hiya
Kinda agree with Calie...the need to transiti...Hiya<br />Kinda agree with Calie...the need to transition can't just be based on a single view. Mental health can be optimised in a number of ways. Do you have poor mental health? Not sure why you are telling eg. your employer, if you are waiting for the affirmation of a therapist to validate your potential transition?<br />Sure, when I transitioned, I was able to point out to my partner and our families the authenticity of my diagnosis. This was what they needed. Almost abrogating my responsibility.<br />But...and I *do* mean but, I was extremely dysfunctional by then. With family and employment etc, comes responsibility, and I'm inclined to take a view of the whole.<br />Hmmmm.<br />Guess I'm not sure what point I'm making, other than to express my heartfelt concern for you and Mrs Stace, and wish you well xxxthe CFGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12242117031487746611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-43892189155928829142010-06-05T19:32:10.797+02:002010-06-05T19:32:10.797+02:00@ Calie
I understand your concern for your friend...@ Calie<br /><br />I understand your concern for your friend's speedy diagnosis, and recommendation to transition, but with some people, their transsexualism can be so glaring to their therapist, that it doesn't take months of counseling to realize that transition is what the client needs for their well being. After only two visits to a psychiatrist, I was told that he thought I was transsexual and should transition. Regrettably, circumstances made it impossible for me back then. Slow and easy may be the best approach for those who need to be pried out of their shell, but some others can actually benefit from fast track transitioning. One thing I have learned from getting to know the members of my support group, is that everyone's situation is unique.<br /><br />Melissa XXMelissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04600684740584460891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-25752538261808702712010-06-05T19:13:36.189+02:002010-06-05T19:13:36.189+02:00I hope you know that you are a hero, Stace! Very o...I hope you know that you are a hero, Stace! Very often when something like that happens, onlookers become petrified, but you took immediate action and probably saved your friend's life.<br /><br />You seem to work with a good group of people, who even though they suspect you are gay, feminine, or whatever, still like and accept you. As someone who spent 38 years working in a totally different kind of environment, I can't emphasize how lucky you are in that respect. I could never have transitioned on my old job, but you have already tested the waters, so to speak, and from here, they appear to be warm and inviting. That has to be good news!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04600684740584460891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-80870073190858213122010-06-05T19:12:45.060+02:002010-06-05T19:12:45.060+02:00A very brave and kind thing you did for your frien...A very brave and kind thing you did for your friend, Stace.<br /><br />Regarding the post, you need to do what's right for you and only you know the answer. I was a bit bothered by your comment regarding the VU. I know of a person, locally, who was give a one hour session, the first session, and told that she was a transsexual and should transition. I felt this was totally a reckless determination. There is a lot to consider including your job and those around you. It sounds like you have a lot of acceptance, so transition may be the right thing to do if YOU are sure that is what YOU want to do.<br /><br />Regardless of your decision, you know I'll support you from afar.<br /><br />Calie xxxCaliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00280127011882954777noreply@blogger.com