tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post3330066219073747026..comments2023-06-18T11:06:27.891+02:00Comments on Musings of an I.T. Girl: 12 MonthsStacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-13357742614326496102012-12-13T14:39:08.179+01:002012-12-13T14:39:08.179+01:00I first saw someone at the gender clinic in early ...I first saw someone at the gender clinic in early 2010, who advised me to see an external therapist (and gave me contact details) as they had a long waiting list, and when I was there it was diagnostic more than therapy as they do not have the resources to spend time with people.<br /><br />I started to see the therapist in May of 2010 and made the decision to transition in the summer of 2011. I cannot say how pleased I am that the clinic had such a waiting list - sure it took a lot of time, but the help I got whilst waiting was priceless...<br /><br />I think it's less stressful to be me. That's what most of my colleagues have told me over the last three days anyway!<br /><br />StaceStacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-17215155350911770292012-12-13T14:35:27.558+01:002012-12-13T14:35:27.558+01:00Thanks.
Probably not :)
In fact... I found an ol...Thanks.<br /><br />Probably not :)<br /><br />In fact... I found an old friend who I have not spoken to for more than a decade in FaceBook and after much deliberation I sent him a message and Friend request. He saw that we shared a couple of friends and so accepted the request, but alkl he had seen was the first line of "You probably won't recognise me", my name and picture as he just saw the message on his phone.<br /><br />And then spent the next day racking his brains to try and figure out who this woman was, as he could absolutely not remember going to school with a girl named Stacy. :)<br /><br />StaceStacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-28293273634099765202012-12-13T09:39:03.371+01:002012-12-13T09:39:03.371+01:00Well done on your year!
I suspect your former sch...Well done on your year!<br /><br />I suspect your former schoolmates probably wouldn't recognise or notice Stace if they passed her in the street.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08027942517258679266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-14296678727417064512012-12-13T00:41:24.780+01:002012-12-13T00:41:24.780+01:00I'm with you on that; I wasn't much ahead ...I'm with you on that; I wasn't much ahead of you in this, having transitioned at work in April of 2011 (I'd first seen at therapist in mid-2008 - 2008-11 is a long story of the gatekeeping kind) and had a year that was nothing short of amazing. I had a bit of an industry change as part of it, too; six months after I transitioned while doing IT work for a .EDU I was recruited and hired by a software company that is and has long been known as a great place to work, and my fortunes have increased since.<br /><br />I like to think that, if given the chance to be ourselves, there's a hell of a lot that we're able to do better than before.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316104193585812650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-23617348961348467142012-12-12T11:55:25.717+01:002012-12-12T11:55:25.717+01:00There have been times when I have really broken do...There have been times when I have really broken down with fear and panic - I've had to either find an empty meeting room and just sit in a corner for 20 minutes to compose myself, or just leave and go for a walk.<br /><br />The fact that the people I tell have been so supportive make such a huge difference in how I can cope.<br /><br />I do know that had I have been in the place where I grew up it would have been so different - my brothers friends (people I went to school with) were telling him that he had to talk me out of it when they found out. That I was going to be a laughing stock and ruin my life.<br /><br />Thankfully I didn't listen to them when I was in the UK (and so don't have a criminal record) and didn't plan to start when I was so far away in a different country!Stacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-16234957893110719392012-12-12T11:46:34.005+01:002012-12-12T11:46:34.005+01:00Again, thanks! I can't believe how quickly it ...Again, thanks! I can't believe how quickly it has gone! (Or how well)Stacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-36463493483300780502012-12-12T11:45:45.404+01:002012-12-12T11:45:45.404+01:00:) Thanks, here's to the next I don't know...:) Thanks, here's to the next I don't know how many months!Stacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-5120902305306276482012-12-12T11:45:15.142+01:002012-12-12T11:45:15.142+01:00I do think that had a lot to do with it. I wanted...I do think that had a lot to do with it. I wanted to show people that I was just me, I really did not want to come into the office in an over the top outfit that everyone has in their heads when you tell them that you are transsexual.<br /><br />I hope I have nothing in my wardrobe that fits that description!<br /><br />Yup, absolutely YAY! :)Stacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-44913432516729146632012-12-12T10:09:19.104+01:002012-12-12T10:09:19.104+01:00I know that your panic/anxiety issues are very rea...I know that your panic/anxiety issues are very real, and at times debilitating. But despite that (or because of it?), you manage to get through all these these enormous situations right side up. I really admire you, Stace.Leslie Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15373261212549008939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-74992275628668295392012-12-12T05:59:03.345+01:002012-12-12T05:59:03.345+01:00Congratulations on getting that first year in!Congratulations on getting that first year in!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316104193585812650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-44584519004749857862012-12-12T00:37:52.152+01:002012-12-12T00:37:52.152+01:00Think that you passed the one year test! With dist...Think that you passed the one year test! With distinction!Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133031265351841626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-43829115348195369312012-12-11T21:44:09.372+01:002012-12-11T21:44:09.372+01:00...such a shallow question, and yet at the time so...<i>...such a shallow question, and yet at the time so very important</i><br /><br />It may sound shallow, but it's the whole first impression thing isn't it? What you pick to wear will affect how people react to you and if you're trans, I wonder if that is doubly so. I mean, there are preconceptions about how trans folk dress and breaking that stereotype isn't always easy.<br /><br /><i>All of them positive and offering support</i><br /><br />Yay!Lynn Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00876715474502367377noreply@blogger.com