tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post2777909193232484224..comments2023-06-18T11:06:27.891+02:00Comments on Musings of an I.T. Girl: What I need...Stacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-25951760837218260832011-03-08T19:17:23.099+01:002011-03-08T19:17:23.099+01:00Becca: Confidence when going out is fine, well get...<b>Becca:</b> Confidence when going out is fine, well getting there anyway. Confidence to do something in that situation is where I have to do something...<br /><br /><b>Melissa:</b> I hope not. I did have a long conversation with my therapist about it (and I guess I'm going to have more...)<br /><br />Mrs Stace is not there yet. She has to go at her own pace, and I am not going to push the issue. But it would be nice...<br /><br /><b>Ariel:</b> I do the 'fake it' thing the first time I do something new (first time out, first time in the cafe etc). But at that point it abandoned me... Time and practice I suppose :)<br /><br />Thanks for the support all.<br /><br />StaceStacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-79769277684994151872011-03-07T23:14:30.913+01:002011-03-07T23:14:30.913+01:00"Fake it till you make it" is a pretty g..."Fake it till you make it" is a pretty good way to start. Even if you don't feel the confidence inside, if someone says "he," correct them, quietly but firmly. That's not a confrontation. Just state it as a matter of fact.<br /><br />You're already going out, which is probably at least somewhat ahead of how you feel inside. Correcting pronouns is another good step. Act confidently even if you don't feel it, and before long you <i>will</i> feel it.<br /><br />I started with bravado, or <i>chutzpah</i> as I usually state it. That turned into confidence that came from inside. Once you get there, things like pronoun correction will come naturally because you know what's inside you. You'll be surprised that anyone would get it wrong!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-64031746813976276122011-03-07T21:59:51.289+01:002011-03-07T21:59:51.289+01:00I think that is always going to be a problem with ...I think that is always going to be a problem with people who have known you as a male. At least until they get used to seeing the new you. If the cook didn't know you, I doubt he would have said, "he". The more you get out, the more your confidence will grow. Wouldn't it be nice, if Mrs. Stace would go out with you occasionally?<br /><br />Melissa XXMelissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04600684740584460891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187164070937704663.post-52651702938722535412011-03-07T20:57:21.552+01:002011-03-07T20:57:21.552+01:00Stace, confidence is in short supply in my househo...Stace, confidence is in short supply in my household so your are not alone. <br /><br />Not an easy thing to find initially but I am sure it will come - heck you are out there already. As you go out more I am sure that it will become easier. <br /><br />BeccaBeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14342124169953960479noreply@blogger.com